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Your replies are appreciated, but unless you have walked in my shoes you should not be so quick to judge.
The relationship my son had with this strake was his choice, he was young but mature – he made a mistake. He brought this amoral animal into our home. That is his fault and he will receive consequences.
This person also deserves consequences. As does my husband who is getting his now.
I have never met another person in this category. Maybe I have been lucky. But right now, it does not feel like it.
Silvia may do what she sees fit.
Seems I might have learnt a new words here but I’m still abit confused by it’s meaning:
“Strake”
Oxford English Dictionarystrake
• noun 1 a continuous line of planking or plates from the stem to the stern of a ship or boat. 2 a protruding ridge fitted to an aircraft or other structure to improve aerodynamic stability.
— ORIGIN Latin stracus.
mrs sultana,
yes, you deserve the right to vent your anger and frustration at this person who has done you wrong, your son and your husband and yes as you said, they are suffering the consequences. So? That’s life! You learn from experiences good and bad and next time around, everyone is smarter!This “Belgian girl” could easily have been anyone–if you are posting to warn women about this “Jezebel”then thank you for the reminder.
But I hope your family is receiving counseling to get through this horrible experience and that you can all heal. Life has to go on and I hope you reach some form of closure to save your marriage and your relationship with your son.
Mike – I also had trouble with ‘strake’ – but I loved ‘succubus ‘
Two new words in one day (sadly neither in German)
@Phillip wrote:
Mike – I also had trouble with ‘strake’ – but I loved ‘succubus ‘
Two new words in one day (sadly neither in German)
Maybe this will temper your sadness. How about “Die Ho”?
Also, to balance your new vocabulary, you’ll be needing to know about the “incubus”.
Finally, not being sure, perhaps Mrs. S wanted to use:
rake 2 (rk)
n.
An immoral or dissolute person; a libertine.[Short for rakehell.]
Whatever the case, let the poor woman vent so she can get on with the healing process. It’s pretty well known that most of us humans go through five stages when dealing with grief/mental trauma;
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
AcceptanceI’d venture we’re at stage two. The rest will, hopefully, follow.
@Phillip wrote:
Perhaps stage 6 might be ‘disappearance’
:mua:
…of the perpetrator? At this point it may be a distinct possibility.
:texas:
This person also deserves consequences. As does my husband who is getting his now.
I really was going to skip this post, but I really know how you feel. Went through this and it went further. I went through fertility treatments and she got pregnant. I laugh about it now… and count my lucky stars.
But I was lucky to learn something from a good friend and the Resident Austrian
1. A relationship even when married does not give us a document of ownership, adults are responsible for their own actions.
2. No one can break up a relationship, except the 2 parties in it.
3. When someone cheats on you it is not about you, it’s about them.
My advice is forget her! It a lot of wasted and negative energy and that makes you sad and tired.I feel it is my duty to alert the women of Vienna to this problem, since it has all but torn apart my very strong marriage to a wonderful man.
A straight A student attending an American University in Vienna, my son (who was a minor when this succubus got hold of him) used and abused him for a full year. He was too blinded by what he perceived to be love to understand she was simply using him.
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And during this time, you were also blinded by her ways? Or you attempted to sit them down and figure out what was going on, but you never got through to beloved son?
Her next target was my husband. She contacted him at work via these so called Social Networks, and proposed that they meet, adding that she knew he found her attractive.
And your husband messes about with “Social Networking” sites at work, because…?
Being a man he was flattered, but to his credit stopped her dead in her tracks.
Oh! So she never really presented a problem to your strong marriage? Nor did she “all but tear it apart”? Or are you obfuscating a bit?
My advice is to disbelieve any words she speaks to you and to keep your menfolk protected from this Janus.
Dang… our menfolk are so craven and weak and disabled… where have you been for the last 5 years?
And “Janus”? Unless you mean Janice from “Friends” — Ohhhh myyyy Gawwwd! — do you really mean this?
An old Italian deity, represented with two faces, looking different ways. His double-gated temple on the Forum in Rome had a symbolic significance: it was open in time of war and closed in time of peace. Janus may have been connected with the fortunes of war because any army had to pass through a gateway in order to start a campaign. An ianua, ‘entrance gate’, has two sides and presumably represents the two possible outcomes of any future event—success or failure… BLAH BLAH BLAH
I hope this posting helps someone avoid what my family has endured at the hands of this selfish, conceited and deceitful young woman.
Really? Making an initial post on this forum that “offers” to help us avoid harridans is… significant, useful, and presents you as a helpful fellow expat?
Please post your own stories and lets stick together to defeat this scourge of happy stable families.
Shucks, just PM sownd_fx often and leave the rest of us out of this!
So sorry to hear you too have been on the receiving end of this kind of scenario Silvia. If people knew how it felt they would be more understanding and less critical.
I just don’t understand how others can be so rude and insensitive. So much for ‘being there’ when others are hurting. Far easier to ridicule and make pathetic jokes. Just remember this folks, “What goes around comes around”.
My intention of posting is to warn others, and yes, of course my husband should not have succumbed to this whore, but he did. And yes, we have (or rather had) a strong marriage. I don’t know if I will ever trust him again, at this stage, it seems doubtful. Did you give him another chance Silvia? I feel for you, you must have gone through hell and back.
The husband refused her suggestion of a “b***-job” despite her protestations that she was “good at it”. And this delightful females mother is a bible-bashing religious teacher.
But little Miss Strake contacted him (my husband) to “complain” about our son. He was an ear for her complaints. She is nothing if not devious, yet looks like butter would not melt in her mouth.
What is most galling is that this succubus stayed at our home for 8 weeks while her apartment was being refurbished – free of charge of course. And whilst here, criticised my housekeeping without lifting a finger to help of course. She wafted round like some fairy princess with a book in her hand most of the time, leaving dirty glasses and plates all around the place.
I really should have expected something from this weird girl – when she stood and watched me ironing and not ironing my families underwear. “My mother would not like it if I did not iron my underwear” Quoth she. And she thought I would be interested in this pathetic admission why ?
Another unpleasant aspect of this tart is that she boasts to anyone who will listen how she has sex at the drop of a hat. She must be a walking incubator for all kinds of STD’s and yes, my son has been tested for everything.
Walk a mile in my shoes before you are so quick to judge, the rest of you.
I just don’t understand how others can be so rude and insensitive. So much for ‘being there’ when others are hurting. Far easier to ridicule and make pathetic jokes. Just remember this folks, “What goes around comes around”.
The Internet makes it hard to feel emotion. I am sure most people on here who would have heard your story person to person, would have reacted differently.
My intention of posting is to warn others, and yes, of course my husband should not have succumbed to this whore, but he did. And yes, we have (or rather had) a strong marriage. I don’t know if I will ever trust him again, at this stage, it seems doubtful. Did you give him another chance Silvia? I feel for you, you must have gone through hell and back.
To be honest I think you posted it to vent not to warn. You’re hurt and angry and you feel betrayed. Understandable!
MY EX! I gave him another chance but changed my mind within a week and tossed him out… I did rip all the buttons off numerous of his shirts, while he was wearing them and kicked a dent in her car though. (he was driving it, I kept ours).
From that experience I learned, I was not as sweet and easy going as he thought, love is not enough to make a marriage work and you won’t die from a broken heart it just feels like it. For her I feel sympathy had to deal with his cheating throughout the relationship. They are now divorced…
As for your husband Ms Sultana, if he has been a decent person and you have been happy with him throughout your marriage, get over this and give him another chance. We all make mistakes. But if you can’t get over it, get out of it! It’s impossible to have any relationship without trust. Hope you feel better soon…
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